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The Yin and Yang


Social Dancing

Yin & Yang of Social Dancing

What Women Want From Men!

   The following results were taken from a survey of 500 women ages 25 through 45 years old, single and married.

   When a woman knows the pleasure of dancing in the arms of a man, it is next to impossible to settle for anything less, unless he has some incredibly exciting career in which they can experience unlimited financial freedom together or he is an unbelievable lover or both!  Yes, it is true in the order of importance according to our survey.  Dance, Financial Success then Intimacy.  Of all the women surveyed, not one said she did not enjoy dancing in the arms of a man.  In fact 90% of the women said they could tell what kind of a life partner a man would be by the way he danced with her and they could tell his level of sincerity towards her by observing the way he danced with other women.  Either he is a player or shy, inhibited or uninhibited, aggressive or passive.

   Women love a man who has a certain level of refinement.  A man who is masculine, but who also enjoys the arts as well.  A man who is interested in becoming more than just his job.  Seeking more out of life than just eat, sleep and work.

   Music and dancing touches women in a very profound and unique way.  It "Stirs the Soul" and can enable her to let the every day problems of life seem less significant and help unlock the playful and sensuous side of one's personality.  What could be better than sharing that with a special man?  Women said that the old dinner and a movie routine for a date has become so boring.  First of all, standing in line on a Friday night with hundreds of strangers is not real fun after a long day at work or after driving the kids to and from school and soccer practice.  Eating high calorie junk food and sitting for 1 1/2 hours in a dark theater without conversation is of course not helping the figure any and not what most women want to do on a date unless they are UNDER 20 years old and have nothing to talk about.  

Women like to get dressed up and looking their best when out on a date.  Women love to be complimented by their date on their appearance.  There is always something conplimentary a man can say about a woman, at any age.

   The ULTIMATE EXPERIENCE is dancing with a man and being romanced in a sincere way, getting to know that man on and off the dance floor and being courted where the sexual pressure is off!  Eventually revealing deeper feelings for one another that is MUTUAL and then becoming intimate!  This is the ULTIMATE DANCE DREAM come true!

(On and off the dance floor)

1. Good Leader on the dance floor who stays on the music.
2. Neat, clean appearance and well groomed.
3. Confident, self-assured. Direct eye contact .
4. Stable career, financial security.
5. Sense of humor, quick witted, intelligent.
6. Well-mannered i.e.; opens the door, introduces you to his friends, good table manners etc.
7. Physically fit, keeping weight under control.
8. Interested in what you have to say, a good listener.
9. Capable of true intimacy.
10.Nice looking.

   Of the women surveyed, all enjoyed compliments on their appearance, dancing ability, intelligence and cooking abilities.  Women also said they knew if a man was giving insincere flattery, it is like a sixth sense women have. So men beware, only sincere flattery please!

(especially on the dance floor)

1. Men who can't lead and blame it on the woman.
2. Bad breath or body odor.  (A good male dancer will always have a few mints in his pocket.)
3. Cheap cologne.
4. Cocky attitude, men who think they are "God's Gift".
5. Lewd conduct.
6. Men who wear clothing that went out of style 10-20 years ago.
7. Cheap toupees.  Invest in an good one or just go

au' natural.
8. Smokers and heavy drinkers.
9. Unemployed loser types. They can dance but don't have   a job, house, or money.
10. Dumb Guys.

   BUT, 95 % of the women said they would put up with all the negative qualities (with exception to numbers 2, 5, and 8) if the man is a good dancer.  If you want to dance EVERY dance, sometimes there is more of a price to pay than just the cost of admission.

What Men Want From Women !

   The following results were taken from a survey of 500

men ages 25 through 45 years old, single and married.

  99% of the men interviewed took up dancing so they could meet women.  Not for the art of dance itself or the love of music alone, but solely for the purpose of meeting women to date and have a romance with.  Some of these men who in every day life might be considered ineligible, below average in appearance, or just to put it bluntly a "Nerd" actually found women STANDING IN LINE to dance with them.  These men had put forth the extra effort to learn how to dance above average or really well.  The women standing in line were not all nerds themselves but some model types who could have any "Tom Cruise" type of guy they wanted.  Most of the men interviewed are still astounded at the aphrodisiac quality dancing has on women.  Now let's clarify something...  not all the women are model types but remember, from a man's point of view, when you go from zero dates to dancing with 50 or more women in one night, things are looking good, if you know what I mean.  Even if you are a Nerd or just average looking or even prematurely bald or overweight, these women who love to partner dance don't care about all that, they just want a man who can lead them into dance steps.


   A smart man learns how to dance because he knows that is where all the women are, out dancing!  A lucky man meets a fabulous woman while out dancing who loves him and admires him.  A smart and lucky man recognizes a good woman when he finds her and continues to nourish the relationship with dance and romance!


   Men are looking for physical contact, a sexual encounter, or a committed relationship.  And if they have to learn to dance to increase their chances, they WILL learn to dance.  Once a man learns how to dance he discovers a whole new world.  He quickly notices that there are usually two women who know how to dance for every one man at any dance party or night club.  That is the good news.  He also discovers that not all women are interested in having sex with you even if you have been holding her in your arms all night on the dance floor.

Oh well, noone ever said it was perfect.

(On and off the dance floor)

1. Attractive, neat and clean appearance.
2. Great personality, friendly and outgoing.
3. Happy with her career or job
4. Healthy. Not too thin or too heavy!
5. Intelligent
6. Likes to dance but has a life off the dance floor as well
7. Affectionate and attentive
8. Even tempered.
9. Likes sports or will be O.K. with you liking sports.
10.Good sense of humor

(especially on the dance floor)

1. Bad breath or body odor.  (A good woman dancer always has a few mints in her purse.)
2. Cold and unaffectionate disposition.
3. Messy appearance or greatly overweight or underweight
4. Unemployed
5. Too much make-up.
6. Foul language, loud and abrasive voice.
7. Hypochondriac personality
8. Women who are critical about the way a man leads or dances.
9. Air Head type. Bad conversationalist.

   An overwhelming 90% of the men surveyed said they found it easy to feel closer to a woman who was a good listener and appeared interested in what they had to say.  Men also enjoyed being complimented about their dance ability, intelligence and appearance.  Most men like a woman who flirts on and off the dance floor (with him of course) but did not like a woman who falsely led them on by flirting only on the dance floor and then ignoring them the rest of the time.

   60% of the men interviewed did not like Wonder Bras or stuffed bras.  They prefer a woman be herself.  Size does not matter, even for women.  

   75% did not like long extension nails that got in the way of dancing and other close encounters. 


   80% enjoyed being a more advanced dancer than their partner, they also enjoyed helping their partner learn to dance by taking lessons and workshops together.


   Unfortunately, history will show that for every two women at a dance party, there is usually only one man.  This is a problem that can be remedied.  Women need to recognize that once the men learn that the women frequent a certain place, they will follow.  It just takes time and patience on the part of the women.  So, hang in there Ladies and when the Men do show up, don't be afraid to ask them to dance.  This is not your Grandmothers Dance Floor anymore.  It is perfectly acceptable these days, in fact, some Men prefer that you do the asking.  The more you put yourself "out there" and appear Socially Available, the more you will dance.  And Gentlemen, if you don't already dance, you're missing out on a great,  social opportunity.  Men that can dance are always the most popular guys at any Social Event.     

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